The other day I was thinking in the shower how my father in law use to call me super mom. I was partly insulted and partly flattered by his comments. He has since passed and I ask for his intersessions to bring our family peace. If you knew him this could be quite funny at this moment. Then I got to thinking how patient I use to be... how I would take my kids to the park... read books... work so lovingly with them with their violins... but now....
I then started thinking about some Moms I use to hang with and how we had all these ideals about our children ... my mind kept thinking and longing for the feelings of being the nice family.... the nice mom... the great friend. Certain people came fluttering through my mind... what's wearing us out? Why aren't we the super mom's anymore?
Then God had one of these woman come up to me later that day and say to me remember when we were the great moms. I was so dumbfounded that she said that when I had just been thinking in the shower that morning about it. Someone overheard us talking and and she said what do you mean were super moms?... they have to grow up and the super mom has to change to their needs too.
I have tears coming down my face right now as I hear my children arguing and annoying each other in the background. Why is it that I don't get up and "help" the situation. Is this supermom lazy? Do I need to let them go through this? What does a supermom do in this situation?
Being a supermom to little ones is so much easier than the pre and teen years.
I don't remember acting like this when I was a kid. My mom just smiles when I say this to her. I truly hope there is teen amnesia and family amnesia. I pray that someday our family will just love each other instead of annoy each other.
My sister, mom, dad and I are so strong together and my brother has chosen to be on his own with his family. I don't want this for my children.
Can't we just get along?
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You've said so many wonderful things here...that strike a cord with me. Remembering what a family once was... and reflecting on what it is now. I fight within myself of my vision of the 'Norman Rockwell' family life, and the brutal, stark reality of what it is now. It truly is my struggle...and I, as is my nature, have fought the change for such a long time. I guess the lesson for me is that 'family' evolves and changes...therefore, I must, too.
As for being a 'super mom'...please don't sell yourself short, dear friend. I find you amazing in all that you do...for your children at home...and at work. Perhaps the label of 'super' is with fault... not you!! : )
Love that you are blogging! If you have any questions, you know where to find me. I'll be happy to help! : )
xox
VB
aka Carol
Thanks for sharing this with me. I hope you can continue with this as it has really been something that I have loved to do.
As for the family thing, you have a great family. What is a "normal" family???? I have never been in one in terms of what the world considers "normal."
VB is right...family evolves and changes, but the love and basic foundation is always there.
You just do the best that you can do at any time!!!
So keep on truckin' or should that be bloggin'!!!!
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